This here folks is how I've been dressing since I was a child. My earliest memories of the struggle are with those damn itchy tights and frilly panties you had to wear if you were a toddler in the 70's. Thank goodness someone caught on and those went away. I can remember hating those tights.
The next memory is that I had three pairs of velour bell bottoms, which for those of you to young to remember bell bottoms were to hang down almost over your shoes. Think massive boot cut. I believe I got them in first grade and in grade three I fought to give them up as they were hovering around my calves. By 5th grade I finally accepted that women for all intents and purposes were suppose to suffer for beauty so I succumbed to blue jeans (teach your girls differently please). I accepted tight shoes, tight jeans and discomfort to fit in. Many days though it was unbearable and you would see me in sweats and no makeup. Makeup is another issue all together.
The next memory is that I had three pairs of velour bell bottoms, which for those of you to young to remember bell bottoms were to hang down almost over your shoes. Think massive boot cut. I believe I got them in first grade and in grade three I fought to give them up as they were hovering around my calves. By 5th grade I finally accepted that women for all intents and purposes were suppose to suffer for beauty so I succumbed to blue jeans (teach your girls differently please). I accepted tight shoes, tight jeans and discomfort to fit in. Many days though it was unbearable and you would see me in sweats and no makeup. Makeup is another issue all together.
Fast forward 40 plus years and I've learned some tricks. First of all I know I'm incredibly sensitive to the feel of things. Not just "oh yeah I like to be comfortable" but "Crawl out of my skin screaming and crying sensitive". I've literally removed a bra while driving down the interstate (I'm sorry, I know this is highly irresponsible). My crazy "Get this thing off of me now" was not willing to wait 20 minutes for an exit.
So in this picture I am wearing a $4 pajama top, that's right folks. I found three colors of PJ t shirts on clearance at Target. I've learned that the T Shirts in this department are much softer and loose. My pants are palazzo pants with a wide stretchy waist band. They are a soft cotton blend. I have more palazzo pants than you shake a stick at. For shoes I often wear a brand called Jambu, they are about $100 new but can often be found on clearance for under $40. I also usually add earrings, a necklace or a bracelet and one ring on each hand. In the past I've been known to also use bathing suit cover ups as dresses or bathing suit pant cover ups as palazzo pants. I truly don't think anyone has ever noticed nor do I care. Comfort is key.
So in this picture I am wearing a $4 pajama top, that's right folks. I found three colors of PJ t shirts on clearance at Target. I've learned that the T Shirts in this department are much softer and loose. My pants are palazzo pants with a wide stretchy waist band. They are a soft cotton blend. I have more palazzo pants than you shake a stick at. For shoes I often wear a brand called Jambu, they are about $100 new but can often be found on clearance for under $40. I also usually add earrings, a necklace or a bracelet and one ring on each hand. In the past I've been known to also use bathing suit cover ups as dresses or bathing suit pant cover ups as palazzo pants. I truly don't think anyone has ever noticed nor do I care. Comfort is key.
So the other day I thought about what helps me and why some days are so much better than others. I made a connection. You would think in about 47 years I would have done this sooner. With my clients I often suggest (check with our doctor first) Omega 3, 6,9 and B vitamins to deal with nervous system disorders and anxiety. I had run out of mine and was trying to wait till pay day to stock up on all my vitamins (quality matters). All of a sudden I'm noticing that I can't get dressed without trying on 10 outfits and changing my bra 8 times. Then it hits me "I've been out of my oils & vitamins".
B Vitamins are responsible for the connections of our nerves and the signals they send. Think of it like old time telephone wires. Without the signals get all jumbled up. Many of us need extra B's. Omega's are responsible for the lining of those nerves and tend to calm things down. I see this in my son with Asperger's too. He takes fish oil while I use a plant based formula.
B Vitamins are responsible for the connections of our nerves and the signals they send. Think of it like old time telephone wires. Without the signals get all jumbled up. Many of us need extra B's. Omega's are responsible for the lining of those nerves and tend to calm things down. I see this in my son with Asperger's too. He takes fish oil while I use a plant based formula.
So there it is. I've noticed that I can wear my jeans and good bras (not the stretchy) ones when I don't run out of my coping tools.
My hope is this will help someone who also struggles with sensory issues, be an adult or child.
Love & Light,
Courtney
My hope is this will help someone who also struggles with sensory issues, be an adult or child.
Love & Light,
Courtney
OMG, me too!!
ReplyDeleteI struggle to wear tee shirts or anything that lays on my arms. I buy my yoga pants at Walmart because I can handle the Danskin brand, but not something like one of those yoga brand names.
Different fabrics chafe me. The smell of them irritates my sinuses. I have to have soft clothes. I can manage to wear others, but I am physically miserable the whole time. My skin crawls and sweats.
I feel your pain.
Thanks for the share.